Why `Control', Not `Love', Makes The World Go Round - Part One

Opinion:by Benson Agoha

My friend Yaphath Colebrook, once said that it is a great thing to find love, or have it find you.

So then, for many of us seeking love, it is either playing tricks on us or has become our nemesis.

How many times, have we gone in search of peace, but found exactly the opposite? And how many times have we gone in search of love, and found hate, in search of success, but are faced with failure.

So, whoever said that love that makes the world go round, must have existed, not in our world but some other model. Or, as is often the case these days, some argue that 'unconditional love' will succeed where love failed.

I stoutly kicked against it on LinkedIn's `Leadership Think Tank'. That was, until Jane Barrash offered a different perspective. Jane persuaded us deviants that, despite our unfavourable predispositions to the idea, we could in fact, collectively co-create a new reality.

Few minutes after I wrote on this colume about my views of the valentine day celebrations, which I had been told was, afterall no so divergent, hardly had I retreated to a quiet spot upstairs, than a man, staggered over, and dumped himself on the seat, next to me.

If you looked closely, you could tell he was unsettled about something, - on valentines day. And while I was intrinsically excited, in preparation for what might result in a juicy piece, he was soon joined by his spouse who, sensing my aparent discomfort, assertively pulled him close, and planted a smacker on his lips.

Eh, yes it was Valentine's Day afterall. Remember, I was still waiting and hoping. Was love being fair? Was it playing tricks or simply being my nemesis?

The irony was that the dishevelled-looking man, though did in fact readily picked up the smacker, was aparently, not in the mood for love, or Valentine day celebration. And before long, he staggered off without his lady in tow.

Some wise man had said that love makes the world go round. But this is hardly irrefutable. Just as neither peace or war. Else, how would Mario Puzo be considered right when he admonished that whatever we fall too much in love with, betrays us in the end.

Something else must be the pivot on which the world revolves, and I am not even talking of money. Something that, like plasma, tampers with the excesses of love, peace, war or money - or lack of them.

One that is capable of delivering a cooling-off effect and stem the bubbles, in such a way they never shoot too high up, nor fall back too much in, that they leave a dent.

Giving enough room, when left to their vagaries, variables posses a natural tendency to exercise freedom of movement. And, unless they get bogged down by excessive weight, they fly about with the resplendent `eehhs' and `ooohs' of excitment. But even roller coasters have other effects, than excitement.

If all things are not equal, and they hardly are, the centre cannot hold. Which is obviously why economists often anchor their hypothesis on a safer premise of "all things being equal".

If this isn't a warning not to take their statements on face value, I wonder what is?

'Control' is the quintessential factor that makes the world go round. How much of your actions can you control or rather, how much of your life is within your control?

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