We Can't Change What We Don't Own by Lucira Jane Nebelung

* Lucira Jane Nebelung

This afternoon I sit in silent awareness with my Soul, reflecting on and confronting a lifetime of complicity with what is unfolding before us... shining a Light on my shadow, watching scene after scene in my memory when I participated in our subjugation and oppression by the white supremacy and privilege of the patriarchal world order of hierarchy, domination and control.

My silence. My apathy, "it's OK." My indifference, "not my problem." My "playing nice", "kissing up" and "looking good" to get ahead. Playing my role as a subordinate female. My own implicit biases towards POC and others. Playing by rules intentionally meant to dehumanize all of us and deny the truth that we are ALL EQUAL as human beings, as Souls.  

 

The system was built this way. This is going along with our white privilege. There is no such thing as "non-racist." "Neutrality" is a cop-out. Unless we are actively anti-racist, the default is that we are racist.

We all have bought into the Big Lie that "successful people" equates to power and wealth and those who have it are to be worshiped and glorified. We have bought into the lie that tax cuts trickle down and all the other permutations of the Big Lie. Conformity and compliance with the lies are our self-destruction.

These beliefs and others that we unconsciously live by are violent weapons of words and actions. They violate the Truth of our inherent Value, Dignity and Divinity of our Souls. They destroy democracy and the rule of law which are our social contract and spiritual covenant of the divine manifestations of our equality of souls. The social contract has been broken; our spiritual covenant, our pledge and perpetual agreement and promise as human beings, must now come forward if we are to survive.

What we disown wreaks havoc. Until we each confront ourselves and explicitly acknowledge and own our personal complicity, the criminal corruption in government and business and the violence in society will continue.

We are looking at what we ALL have created by our individual choices played out in the collective. What's playing out is the corruption of our human conscience, our souls; what on the inside shows up on the outside. We are ALL responsible for George Floyd. We are ALL responsible for DJT.

If we've been silent because my "life is good" and "it's not my problem",  we are complicit and directly accountable.

 

We can't change what we don't own. And once we do, we can't help but change. Owning OUR part is the Self-Respect, Self-Awareness, Self-Love, and Self-Actualization as a human being of Leading our Lives as Love.

It's time to look in the mirror and take responsibility and accountability for ourselves AND for one another in the world we create and our role in this moment. We are all answerable for our choices and actions. Until we do, fear and divisiveness will continue to govern our lives. The paradox is that our Sovereignty of Soul is what unites us as human beings.

The only way out is in and through.

The Collapse of Leadership in Government and Business By Lucira Jane Nebelung

* Lucira Jane Nebelung

While I’ve been saying this in different ways, leadership comes down to consciously and actively enacting the foundations of human relationships that enable unity in diversity. I have talked about care, understanding, respect, and responsibility. Going even deeper, I now understand that underlying these, True Leadership is about ensuring truth (honesty, morality, ethics, and integrity), transparency and accountability; truth and accountability define leadership. Here is the local story that revealed this.

The “Story”

About a year ago, to great fanfare, our First Selectman (FS) announced that we were purchasing a vacant office building to consolidate and house our public safety professionals. They are in 2 or 3 different locations, the police department in a leased building that the FS/Board of Selectmen (BoS) had intentionally allowed to deteriorate over a number of years to the point of becoming “deplorable.” It was a manufactured “crisis” to create an emotional trigger to justify what was proposed. Had the building been maintained, while smaller than needed at 7K square feet, it would have been functional until the integrity of process dictated that we do something else.

There were presentations at town meetings. During the meetings, we were given vague descriptions of what needed to happen with the 30K square foot building. Here are a couple of key things: The building is over 30 years old and not up to CT state public building codes and it is out of compliance with ADA.  But it was a “great deal.” For $6M, we could purchase the building for $2.8 and for the remaining $3.2M, we could renovate, upgrade and have a “new” building with room for expansion for other town functions. As we are finding out now, the claims were bogus and had no foundation in facts.

No due diligence was done. There was no professional, written appraisal by certified commercial appraisers. We were given photocopies of “comps” provided by cronies of the FS with a hand-written estimate of its value. Since the commercial real estate market locally is “dead,” the building was more than likely overpriced; even the town’s own appraisal was $500K less than we paid. There was no professional inspection of the building. There was no list of what would be needed or cost estimates.

The FS met with the Board of Finance (BoF) on January 23. They pointed out all these as being irresponsible; the FS was evasive and stonewalled them (my husband watched the 5 hour meeting live). The BoF cut $1M from the budget (cost of sally port and cells) and at nearly midnight passed a $5M bond authorization to go to referendum. The FS assured the BoF that due diligence would be done before closing. It was not. The entire process was blatantly disrespectful of the BoF, BoS and the rest of us. Democracy, shared power, is collective leadership which is impossible when an objective is to manipulate facts and keep as many secrets as possible.

Despite the best efforts of some of us to publicly point out the obvious deceptions and implications, it passed referendum in late February. All we wanted was the truth. The FS retaliated against my family through a town department head; an abuse of power and misuse of town resources for political purposes.

The town closed on the building in May and the committee appointed to oversee the project sent out an RFP and hired an architect.

Fast-forward to late September. While the architect knew that our budget was $1.7M for renovations ($500K was set aside for communications technology), they presented a plan with an estimate of $5.8M. Pre-election, the FS and committee chair had been saying that they are confident that this will come in on budget. Post-election, they are now scrambling to cut back:  It will be on one floor instead of two and they plan to ask the state for waivers for compliance with structural codes for public safety buildings among cutting a laundry list of other big-ticket items such as an elevator and other ADA compliance issues, sprinkler system, roof, HVAC unit, parking lot and driveway. The person chairing the committee is an executive in facilities management for a large corporation. If this had been done there, he would have been fired.

It’s been a scam, manipulation, gross mismanagement, and intentional irresponsibility. We were gaslighted: Told what we were supposed to believe despite facts and evidence to the contrary. What is most sad for me is that in betraying us, they betrayed themselves as human beings. The lights were on illuminating truth but few were paying attention. The time and energy spent on spinning BS could have been spent doing things in the right ways and now we all have to live with the lies and those in “power” have to continue to spin a cover up. We can’t have the right discussions or make the right choices founded in deliberate deceit and intentional irresponsibility.

When we continuously double down on deceit and irresponsibility rather than admitting what was done was wrong, it eventually becomes willful stupidity. This is where we are with the public safety building.

Here Are Some Underlying Psychological Drivers that I Observed

Some politicians believe that being elected gives them “ownership” and the mandate to do whatever they want. The FS was re-elected by a very slim margin. The closeness of the vote clearly reflects “no confidence” in the FS, our direction or how decisions are made that affect everyone. He is without mandate. I am grateful that the opponent stood solidly and courageously for honesty, integrity and transparency, shining a light on the ongoing deliberate deceit.

People whose moral code is to “win” at all costs rather than truth and accountability which are fundamental to every human relationship, to love, don’t belong in elected office. They game the system and we all lose.

With the mentality of “winning-at-all-costs”, we create a huge pile of “you-know-what” and then step into it up to our knees. It can’t be scraped off; we track it everywhere. We have abdicated our integrity. The only way out is through with full acknowledgement and ownership of the crap of our missteps. The only way forward is truth.

Reflecting on the election results, I asked myself: In the era of DJT/DC, have we become so desensitized to the deceit, dishonest, immoral, unethical and corrupt actions and manipulation by our politicians and their loyalists that it has become “acceptable” to undermine our democracy and violate sound governance practices to the point that we look the other way and vote for them anyway believing that we are getting something out of it?

It’s up to all of us who believe that politics is intended to be a public expression of our personal and collective morality, ethics, integrity, and accountability and to keep this in the forefront of everyone’s awareness. This is only “partisan” when a party relies on corrupting the integrity of our democratic process and our societal-economic-political system to “win.” Anything based in deceit fails, so then who “wins?” The collapse of leadership is a symptom of the collapse of human truthfulness and accountability to one another that result in the collapse of our society.

Demanding truth and accountability of our elected officials starts with each and every one of us… demanding truth and accountability of ourselves. When evaluating people for leadership roles, the ONLY qualities that MATTER are demonstrated truthfulness, transparency and taking accountability. This applies in business as well as government. In the 1990’s, business treated “ethics” as an afterthought, an add-on to leadership development. As we are learning now, this was a huge mistake.

After the vote, the FS described demands for truth and accountability as “ugly” and labelled those of us who did “nasty” because we called him out and weren’t subservient and compliant. The real ugliness was the demonstrated dishonest, immoral, unethical, and corrupt processes and practices that we have been subjected to for this and other decisions in town.

This ugliness as acceptable is the example being set for our youth. Silence and “playing nice” are complicity; it is how the patriarchal structure maintains power and control. We betray ourselves and abdicate our own integrity. Exposing ugliness restores the possibility of the beauty of truth to life.

Truth, honesty, morality, ethics, integrity, transparency, and accountability are not “nice to haves.” They are the hallmarks of psychologically healthy and mature human beings. They ensure that our public and elected officials keep Oaths and serve us. They ensure that executives do what is right for all, not just shareholder/owner profit. They ensure that we engage with others in the right ways so that we make the right decisions with the right outcomes for ALL of us. There is no other way. Flawed process. Flawed outcome. The ends NEVER justify the means; the means are the ends. All deliberate deceit is being outed, everywhere. Truth is uncomfortable and inconvenient but it is what liberates us.

3AM Observations of a Heavy Heart

What do WE do in the face of the pathological power paradigm of the patriarchy? How do WE deal with these significant pathologies whether they are in town hall, the WH, Congress, or SCOTUS, megalomaniacs obsessed with their own power?

These are profoundly unhealthy people who are fixated on their pathologies. They project these and create a pathological society and culture that exploits, manipulates and traumatizes all of us as human beings. This is the root cause of our epidemics of hate, cruelty, poverty, and homelessness, of addictions, overdoses and suicides to cope and escape our wholesale dehumanization to meet societal expectations of status, privilege, entitlement, power, control, and wealth used fill the void made by their separation from their souls, the absence of Spirit.

There is nothing healthy about being well-adjusted to a profoundly unhealthy society.

This void is the collapse of Leadership, the collapse of our humanity. Leaders’ purpose is to hold the space for Sacred Trust for our growth, evolution and actualization of Life as Love.

If something is too good to be true, it is not. In Leading Life and so others, there are NO substitutes for truth and accountability, they are the foundations of Love.  Leadership is defined by the higher level consciousness of human principles that are the foundations of and establish unity: Truth, honesty, morality, ethics, integrity, transparency, and accountability. Leading as Love is Truth and Accountability in Service to Life.

In Truth we are HUman BEings whose Purpose and Accountability are our Actualization as Souls, as Spirit, as Life as Love. When are we going to stand for ourselves, our truth and accountability as human beings? This is Leadership.

Leadership is Soul Actualization, your own and so others’. It requires the Self-Respect, Self-Awareness and Self-Love that are Truth and Accountability founded in honesty, morality, ethics and integrity as a Human Being.

What’s on the inside shows up on the outside in our collective life experience. If goals are externally-focused on status, position, privilege, entitlement, power, control, and wealth of personal achievement and success, we ALL fail as Human Beings.

The choices that we make today create our experience. What do you deeply care about? What really matters to you as a human being? What choices are you making to create, establish and sustain a thriving future for all of us, here and now? Or, are you looking the other way hoping it all just goes away? The only way forward is Truth and Accountability by ALL of us. Truth Matters.

* Lucira Jane Nebelung is the founder of Leading As Love

Leadership in Democracy By Lucira Jane Nebelung

Lucira Jane Nebelung

Democracy is government of the people, by the people and for the people in which sovereign power is vested in the people as a whole who take responsibility for choosing representatives and maintaining their own rights as mature human beings.

Democracy requires both individual and collective accountability for truth, honesty, morality, ethics, and integrity.

Truth means facts and evidence liberated from societal, partisan and religious ideologies and agendas.

Honesty means full disclosure and straightforward, transparent sharing of facts and evidence.

Morality, ethics and integrity Serve our Souls, our human Spirit. They are the integrated applications of truth and honesty in alignment with the foundational, unifying Principle of Democracy: Sovereign Power of the People, of equality, equity, shared power, and justice for the dignity and well-being of ALL. As citizens, we ALL commit to abide by these tenets of the US Constitution.

Leaders in Democracy hold themselves accountable for facilitating the Sovereign Power of both individuals and the collective. They hold themselves accountable to the Sovereignty of their own Soul and all Souls for truth, honesty, morality, ethics, and integrity. Our power and strength are rooted in truth:

Truth allows for Integrity.

Integrity invites Accountability.

Accountability establishes the Power of Sovereignty.

TRUTH MATTERS. INTEGRITY MATTERS. ACCOUNTABILITY MATTERS.

Democracy is both individual and collective Leadership of unity in diversity. Democracy both requires and calls forth our Self-Respect, Self-Awareness, Self-Love, and Self-Actualization as Human Beings. Leaders facilitate our Self-Actualization as Human Beings, as Souls.

The greatest divisions in our nation are between truth and integrity required in a democracy and the ongoing, escalating propaganda and corruption of an unfolding oligarchical dictatorship driven by predatory, parasitic capitalism. There is nothing healthy about being "well-adjusted" to a profoundly pathological society. The pathologies that we see in our society are pathologies imposed on our Souls, our human Spirit to subjugate us.

It takes courage to stand up and take the higher moral ground required for healing. It takes maturity to act in alignment with our human integrity and fearlessly stand up for the truth - not only against those who oppose it, but also to counter and set an example for those - our "friends" who see the corruption and choose to remain silent and do nothing. There are far more of us with human maturity and integrity of moral conscience and courage than those who worship power, profits and money.

To remain silent and "play nice" is to compromise our integrity as human beings and abdicate our responsibility as citizens. As we enable the enablers who state "DC is not their concern and it doesn't matter here", we ourselves contribute to the dismantling of our Democracy. We set an example of apathy and powerlessness for our youth that directly undermines their future.

Psyche means Soul. Psychology encompasses and integrates both mental health and emotional health for our Soul's spiritual health of Sovereignty and so our maturity and integrity as human beings. We all have a moral, ethical and spiritual obligation to say what we see at a collective level that destroys our integrity, our Souls as human beings and so our integrity, our unity in diversity, the Soul of our nation.

In the end, as long as WE take a stand, truth and justice ALWAYS win and our Democracy and rule of law will prevail no matter how hard any group works to shred our Constitution.

As we dare to do something different, everything will change. WE ALL are Leaders as we stand up and for our accountability to our Souls for truth, honesty, morality, ethics, and integrity as Human Beings in Leading Our Lives and demand the same from those who represent us. Patriots are those who speak truth to the abuse of our Sovereignty. Nothing else Matters in a Democracy.

Democracy is collective leadership Leading as Love. It's the one change that changes everything. We undo the patriarchal perversion of leadership based in the privilege and entitlements of hierarchy, domination, power, and wealth.

If we stay in fear, we follow along reacting from the reptilian brain of fight, flight, freeze and fawn and the mammalian brain of herd/pack/mob mentality in conformity and compliance with "authorities" of societal, political and religious ideologies and agendas.

Life gave us a Gift that calls us to Sovereignty: To consciously engage, apply and act on our higher human intellect of the cortex of abstract concepts (democracy, integrity, etc.), moral conscience and the foresight to see the present and future implications of our choices and consequences of our actions. Our Soul is the only valid Authority in Leading our Lives.

Our morals, ethics and integrity - what really matter in a life well lived - are what make us Human Beings: Our Sovereignty of Soul ends the chaos. What's on the inside shows up on the outside. Sovereignty is the simultaneous independence and interdependence of our Souls that is Life as Love.

This is our Call to FreedOM. It's boots on the ground NOW for each of us. As we fail to confront ourselves, we fail to grow and so fail to Lead Life. WE are the ones we've been waiting for.

I welcome speaking with any group willing to take this stand for Leadership in Democracy.

* Lucira Jane Nebelung, founder "Leading As Love", writes from Connecticut, USA.

Life Is Collective Leadership

* Lucira Jane Nebelung 

Says Lucira Jane Nebelung

The notion that only some of us are "leaders" is based in the patriarchal power paradigm of wealth, status and control. Conscious Leadership is the emergence of Collective Leadership, that we are ALL Leaders. It is the active awareness of our unity. It is the realization that I Am You, You Are Me. In Life, ALL is One, interdependent, interconnected, interwoven. 

This seeing ourselves in all others is empathy which is not some "feel good" or "do good" emotion. Empathy is the experience of our Unity with others and Life, our connection that is literally hardwired within our brain physiology in our mirror neurons. Conscious Leaders enact this Unity Consciousness of Collective Leadership. 

Leadership is about the deeper meaning of collaboration that starts with a blank page. It is not about gluing together existing egos and ideas. It's about allowing the emergence of ideas and actions that didn't exist before everyone entered the room. It is about letting go of outcomes: The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.

Unity Consciousness does not mean the echo chamber of groupthink. It is the wisdom, humility and gratitude that we are all in this Life together and that EVERYONE offers something unique that complements everyone else without competition. Wherever two or more are gathered... 

Contrast this with the patriarchal power paradigm of separation and status with focus on preconceived agendas, outcomes, results, goals (yes, including profits) which suppress and limit possibilities and potential. We immaturely abdicate our responsibility and accountability for Leading our Life, giving our power to others over us to "fix" things for us as we follow along in allegiance to labels and ideologies. The watch out for initiatives/movements such as Conscious Capitalism, Conscious Business, etc., is to be aware of this and not create another form of this power and profit-motive paradigm.  

Conscious Leadership allows What Is to Be: Emergence of co-creative compassionate action. An example is Bill Drayton's social entrepreneurship of "cognitive empathy-based living for the good of all" that David Brooks recently described in the New York Times, Everyone a Change Maker. Our collective quality of life is dependent on a level playing field of food, shelter, health care, and education that ensures that no one is left behind in their opportunities for equality and equity, shared power and justice, and dignity and well-being.  

We Are One in Truth in the Unity of Spirit. We Are Unique in our Sovereignty of the Diversity of Souls. We have Freedom of Choice. Spirit-Soul-Creator is the fullness of our humanity. Life is indivisible. We violate the prime Law of One, the Law of Love every time we label ourselves and others and build concepts, ideologies and agendas around these labels that separate us. We diminish our Life experience and demean our humanity. Established labels and ideologies can only recreate the past not call forth and midwife our best future of Love in Action. 

Conscious Leadership focuses on process that fulfills our innate human needs: Connection and contribution (Spirit), purpose and meaning (Soul), self-determination and choice (Creator), and growth and self-actualization (Integrated Wholeness). It is the process of facilitating individual wholeness and so collective wholeness: If even one person's contribution, purpose, choice, and growth are missing, our actions and outcomes are incomplete and unsustainable. In addition, Conscious Leaders utilize social-economic-political justice as a process not as an outcome, the means BEING the end. 

Morality, ethics, integrity, and justice are the public face of Love. Our political landscape that is undermining our democracy is so destructive because it negates Collective Leadership. Conscious Leadership enacts the Truth that we are ALL Leaders so that EVERYONE thrives. Conscious Leadership brings the future into the present; it is Vision-in-Action. 

As Larry Fink, CEO of BlackRock recently said in his annual letter to CEOs about where they will put their investments: 

"Without a sense of purpose, no company, either public or private, can achieve its full potential. It will ultimately lose the license to operate from key stakeholders. It will succumb to short-term pressures to distribute earnings, and, in the process, sacrifice investments in employee development, innovation, and capital expenditures that are necessary for long-term growth...

To have a purpose is vital for long term survivability and long-term profitability. The companies that have purpose are the best companies in the world because it unites their employees, it connects their clients, and most importantly it unites the organization onto a common plain."

We all are moving forward together as human beings in our expanding Wisdom of Collective Leadership. Profit is an outcome that emerges and optimizes itself when we focus on purpose, on actualizing our humanity.

A final thought: People in leadership roles cannot enact the Collective Leadership of Unity Consciousness, Conscious Leadership, if they are NOT in integrated wholeness, in Integrity, in Unity within themselves, mind, body, heart, and soul. We can only transform society by transforming ourselves; healing/wholing ourselves heals/wholes the system. Conscious Leadership is the choice and commitment to transform oneself so as to transform our lives. Truth, Self-Awareness, Self-Respect and Self-Worth are the foundation and catalysts for societal-economic-political transformation. Conscious Leadership brings the Truth of Unity of Collective Leadership to Life as the emerging paradigm.

Leading as Love is Service to Life. Leading is Love in Service to Life. Love Makes a Leader a Leader: Care, Understanding, Respect, and Responsibility for and Accountability to the Whole of Life.

The past four years I was Mom's "first responder" so that she could stay in her own home. I used the time to observe deeply to learn about myself, about leadership, about life. It seems that John's invitation from out of the blue was her message that it's "time to get back to work." John, thank you; I am with you all this week in Spirit and Love.

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Lucira Jane Nebelung, Founder & Principal of Leading as Love ,

shares her perspective on conscious leadership.

She lives in Connecticut, USA

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Events That Are Unthinkable Are Inevitable, Say Lucira Nebelung

by Lucira Jane Nebelung

Many of us are reeling with disbelief that DJT is our President-elect. Many are elated. I continue to have waves of tears of grief. I would like to offer a bit of perspective from the frame of human growth and development and our emotional-psychological-spiritual healing, both individual and collective.

Given that the election results split the outcome between the Electoral College and the majority popular vote, it appears that Trump was "chosen" for a greater reason and purpose that is beyond our conventional comprehension at this time. So read what I share with this perspective in mind. Also consider and include any other situations both personal and collective that you believe are "crises" at this time.

What We Disown Wreaks Havoc

Despite our claims of equality, this country was founded on and the Declaration of Independence and Bill of Rights were written from a white, patriarchal mindset while we engaged in genocide of Native Americans, slavery of people of color and contempt for and prejudice against women. DJT showed us that these injustices were never healed. These wounds merely went into our subconscious to be played out time and time again through our social-economic-political system and policies that are prevalent today. DJT exposed this with stark clarity; it's time for each of us to own our participation in this at both individual and societal levels.

DJT's election is our coming out of denial and acknowledging what is present under the surface. This enables and is a catalyst for our emotional-spiritual healing and growth. We must embrace our darkest shadows before we can integrate them to grow and evolve beyond them. We have never done this and we cannot move forward until we do. DJT's election symbolizes our readiness to heal and move forward. This does not mean that we placidly conform or remain silent. This does not mean that change will be without the discomfort of disruption and upheaval as we seek and create our way forward.

Hope Is Trust in Life, in Truth.

In order to heal, we have to feel. So, deeply feel your fears, anger and grief and try not to feed them with more fear-based thoughts. As challenging as it may seem, we are asked not to fight, blame, demonize, protest, or call anyone a name that further feeds polarity and separation. We are asked not to judge; we are asked to be Centered in Love and Compassion. Don't engage with and perpetuate fear. Don't engage with and perpetuate divisiveness. What we resist persists: Our divisiveness today creates continued divisiveness in the future. Self-righteousness is no different than hate. Channel your emotions into passion for constructive, positive actions that stand for equality, inclusion and justice.

Whether you voted for DJT or not, this election is catalyzing people to take action to change our culture at deep levels. The evolution of our humanity rests upon choosing to match our personal and collective beliefs with our True Nature that nurtures our spiritual as well as our physical needs. These needs cannot be mutually exclusive; one cannot exclude the other.

Unity is founded in the depths of our humanity by healing all forms of separation within ourselves - our beliefs that our labels and agendas are real - not by pretending the separation isn't there. We are all Leaders as we heal and integrate all divisions within so as to heal all divisions with and among others. Commitment to anything else is not Leadership and is not Love.

We are in a time of mass initiation and awakening. We must allow our hearts to break, personally and collectively, before we can heal. Our emotions are our connection to Spirit that when felt completely, bring us back to the Heart where we can engage fully with Life with Strength and Courage. We are simply ending one and beginning a new chapter that we get to write from a place of conscious Self-Awareness and Action as Love as Truth and Freedom, Unity and Wholeness. This is our Power as Leaders. This is our Power as Creators. This is our Power as Love. We are all in this together: The shared Power of Equality for social, economic and political justice.

 
Leadership is Service to Life. Leading is Love.

 

* Lucira Jane Nebelung Founder & Principal Leading as Love, Writes from Connecticut, USA.

Reflections on a Lifetime: My Offerings that Serve Life

by Lucira Jane Nebelung

 

For nearly 40 years, I have worked in individual, leadership and organizational alignment, growth, development, change, and transformation. Initially, I used conventional methods to "maximize performance", such as selection, performance management, learning and development, assessments and surveys, management systems and practices.

 

These all are founded in the belief in the need for conformity for the sake of reducing feared "chaos." All they really do is suppress results by seeking to eliminate our inherent diversity.

As time went on and I went deeper into who I am, I came to realize a paradox: That we only establish unity, truly collaborate and achieve potential, possibilities and results for ourselves and with others when each of us are contributing who we uniquely are as a human being. This goes deeper than labels or even talents and skills. Fully recognizing, acknowledging and owning all of ourselves through thoughtful reflection on our lives, allows us to be fully present with others. The "me" naturally becomes "we."

As we align ourselves within, with who we are as a human being, essentially unite with ourselves at the deepest level, we naturally align with, expand and amplify our contribution to Life through what we do with others.

Why Should You Care?

As you align to Let Your Life Speak, to Lead your Life through your Centerpoint for Being, you:

Live your personal Truth and compass for compassion, the ultimate flowering of Love, the unity within that unites you with Life.

Attune with the impulse and flow of Life as Wisdom, Love and Service.

Express your unique purpose, power and passion, your contribution to the whole that brings peace, joy and fulfilment.

Actualize your greatest potential and growth.

Have boundless Freedom and expression.

Walk your Path of integrating wholeness with a non-judgmental context and vantage point for yourself and your Life.

Are clear about who You Are and what no longer Serves you falls away, as you re-examine your belief systems and all that you held as unquestionable and absolute.

Are grounded in Self-Love. You see that you are not "better" or "less" than any one person or group, it is your uniqueness that makes you equal to and connects you with others. Your ideals for Life as Love are as valid as anyone else's.

Are guided to the highest and greatest good for all, starting with yourself.

Define your own Success. You Lead as Love.

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The life I am living is not the same as the life that wants to live in me.

Before you tell your life what you intend to do with it, listen for what it intends to do with you. Before you tell your life what truths and values you have decided to live up to, let your life tell you what truths you embody, what values you represent.

My life is not only about my strengths and virtues; it is also about my liabilities and my limits, my trespasses and my shadow. An inevitable though often ignored dimension of the quest for "wholeness" is that we must embrace what we dislike or find shameful about ourselves as well as what we are confident and proud of.

Let Your Life Speak ~ Parker Palmer

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You Lead Your Life

Perhaps our greatest fear is of the unknown, of losing certainty about life that comes with Love as Truth and Freedom. We release our past laden with regret, guilt and shame. We release the future crippled by expectations, apprehension and anxiety. We release comparison, competition and conflict. We release hate, the rejection of Love, and evil, the absence of Love, the rejection of Life.

There is an excitement of "what now?" with all its messiness as Life unfolds. We are present, wide open, courageous, without labels, ideologies or rules that tell us how to look, what to think, say or do, what goals to go after, or what we must have in order to "fit in." We innovate. We create the new.

Freed of the belief that conformity means you are connected and belong, there is no need for approval that we take as "love." You Are an integral part of and moved by Life Itself, inspired by your unique Centerpoint within. You Are the Power of Love.

Leading as Love is our mastery of Being a human being, our united and infinite intelligence consciously creating Life. It is only as you Lead your own Life that you Lead others.

As We Love We Lead - As We Lead We LoveLeading as Love is the conscious, active application of your Centerpoint for Being, your unique guiding principles, for every aspect of Life to unfold as Love. I guide you to your own inner voice of wisdom to consciously experience deeper meaning, purpose, contribution, growth, and choice.

 

* In your 20's and 30's - Establish your inner foundation for Life.

* In your 40's and 50's - Discover your universal contribution to Life.

* In your 60's and beyond - Actualize your legacy in Life.

We work together in grounded, practical ways in all aspects of your day-to-day life.I Serve as a Friend who is a Maverick, Mystic, Messenger, Midwife, Mentor, Minister, and Partner in Life. As a coach, I work with you in the discovery and exploration of your Truth and Freedom. You strengthen and expand your expression of your unique Centerpoint for Being to Lead as Love.The commitment to Lead as Love is the one change that changes everything.

My Offerings

For those who ask, "So what do you do?"I offer Leading as Love for both alignment with and fulfilment of Life through your unique Centerpoint for Being. It is not about fixing a deficit; it is about opening to and expanding who you know yourself to Be expressed through what you do. Leading as Love is about you Being You.

Individuals, Leaders, Groups and Organizations

Working together we reveal your unique Centerpoint for Being. This provides a starting point and can be done for individuals, groups and organizations. You can think of it as a Vision, Values, Purpose, Mission, and Strategy for your own Life or for an organization, all rolled into one.

Because each path is unique as it unfolds, I offer mentoring and coaching to individuals to align, balance and integrate every aspect of your Life with your Centerpoint. This can be done in-person, via Skype or on the phone. I offer consulting to groups and organizations to align, balance and integrate systems and practices with its Centerpoint.

Knowledge and wisdom only come with reflection on experience. Focused and ongoing reflection on our history and how it is playing out in the present is required to access this wisdom and spur our growth. In working with me, I will challenge you to confront yourself, your emotional history and boxes of thinking and wholeheartedly support you and encourage the full expression of your Centerpoint in the here and now.

 

To truly embody Leading as Love, we must shift our deepest beliefs, not just change an outer image, a mask of words, behaviors and actions. As you open to your Centerpoint and willingly expose the thoughts, beliefs and emotions that get in its way, their energy is released and transformed.

 

To support building the inherent capability of individuals, groups and organizations to mentor and coach their own alignment and growth, I also offer:

* Leading as Love Mastery Circles: Facilitated, small-group peer mentoring.
* Leading as Love Communities of Practice: Member facilitated mentoring.
* Co-creative Collaboration Circles: Facilitated, focused work that generates innovative solutions to eliminate problems.
* Leading as Love Individual, Group and Organizational Assessments.
As a Leadership strategist and commentator, I offer:

Strategic Advice and Consulting on What It Means to Be A Leader and Leading as Love.Thought-provoking Commentary and Discussion on What It Means to Be A Leader.

Coaches and consultants are welcome to contact me to explore how this might integrate with your own work.

Living as your Centerpoint for Being, Leading as Love, is an exploration and actualization of your own unlimited potential. What is yours?

Let Your Life Speak. Boldly. Bravely. Brilliantly. Nobly. Lead as Love.

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* Lucira Jane Nebelung, Faculty member at The Graduate Institute,
Is The Founder & Principal of "Leading as Love".
She writes from Connecticut, USA.

A Simple Guide to What It Means to Be A Leader

* Lucira Jane Nebelung

by Lucira Jane Nebelung.

Simple does not mean easy. Leaders live in questions, not answers.

How do I ensure the dignity, well-being and growth of each and every person as a human being?

How do I engage in co-creative collaboration allowing Life to expand, to emerge and unfold?

How do I balance and integrate diverse perspectives into choices and actions that benefit all?

The Answer to How Is Yes.

Leaders Are Love's Presence

Who and what do I need to Care About that expands our meaning and contributions in Life?

Who and what do I need to Understand with compassionate comprehension?

Who and what do I need to Respect and not control or limit in any way?

What is my Responsibility in current circumstances and our mutual responsibilities for the future?

Leaders Create Unity in Diversity: Simple Truth of Life
How does this fulfill our unity and interdependence?

How does this fulfill our uniqueness and diversity?

How does this fulfill our freedom of choice?

Where are we disregarding our unity and interdependence?

Where are we disregarding our uniqueness and diversity?

Where are we disregarding our freedom of choice?

Leaders Embody Unity. Leaders Are Unique. Leaders Are the Truth and Freedom of Being.

We Are All Leaders in Life
Leaders Expand Truth and Freedom for All.

Leaders Live in Integrity, Authenticity and Security of their Centerpoint for Being.

Leaders Live the Uncertainty of Life.

Leaders Live Possibility and Potential.

Leaders Live without Easy Answers.

Leaders Trust themSelves, Life and so others.

We are all Called to Lead as Love. 

The Commitment to Lead as Love is the one change that Changes Everything. It starts with you.

What is Your Choice?

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* Lucira Jane Nebelung, Faculty member at The Graduate Institute,

Is The Founder & Principal of "Leading as Love".

She writes from Connecticut, USA.